Trust... and other things

Yesterday I was teaching my 3rd Graders about forming an opinion and when writing a persuasive essay the writer sounds more convincing when their opinion is supported with facts or examples.

I used our discussion time to find out about Haitian culture.  You might be thinking, what would a 3rd Grader know?  At their young age I know that most of their opinions would be formed by their parents opinions.  So when I asked the question "Do Haitians trust other Haitians?" I am most certain that I received their parents opinions... the response was varied but the majority said "No!"  They had countless examples of Haitians who had cheated them or stole from them.  (Keep in mind that I'm teaching students from the rich population of Haiti)

One open-minded student responded that it depends on the Haitian. I praised her answer, for she was not willing to stereotype all Haitians.

But stereotypes can be helpful in trying to relate to people from a different culture.  It can help me be culturally sensitive. Everyone knows that I love to talk! And I love meeting new people. I find it interesting to listen and learn from others. Some Haitians I've met have been very friendly and warm and I've met others who do not volunteer much information. It has been challenging for me to accept that not everyone wants to answer my questions!  Could this be cultural?  Must I build a relationship first before asking deep questions?

Back home it's quite normal to ask inquisitive questions to someone you first meet.  But I'm not so sure how that translates here?  Does it come across as nosey?

Moving on to persistence...

I'm not sure if this is universal for all children, or if it's another characteristic of Haitian culture.  I'm talking about persistence. Some of the children in my class have been very trying this week. Their persistence often wears me down.  They ask me a question and when my response is "no", they ask me again, or whine "please!"  This makes me more frustrated and my "no!" is said more firmly.  It's not uncommon for them to ask a third time... it drives me up the wall!!

This persistence is also seen on the street... marchons (market vendors) calling for your attention "hey you"... beggars asking for food or money... moto-taxis calling out "blan" to ask if you want a ride (literally translated: white,  meaning foreigner).   Could this persistence stem from their African-slave roots and their need to fight to survive?  I'm not sure... but while their persistence can sometimes be off putting or annoying, if steered in the right direction this resilient and persistent attitude could be what gets Haiti back on it's feet.  These words seem engraved on their soul "never give up!"